chocolate_bickie wrote:Wubli was clearly stating that any unauthorized use of her OC was no okay.
fdsjahnadsga? ?? i never said anything like this? all i've said is "pleasy don't write smut of other people's characters without asking them first??? How are these posts about *me* when I am not the only one who has stated it's uncomfortable? There isn't a single smut book about my character in the library
i have stopped looking at this thread because it's going nowhere but begging you to not make it about me and if you need me to remind you my takes on it so you stop saying whatever you think i said:
- if you want to write smut of someone's character, it's in good faith to ask them first. sexual stuff can be really uncomfortable to some people, and even if you aren't emotionally attached to your character, the fact that someone who you've played with decided they wanted to write about your character getting railed and didn't even dare to ask you if it was okay, is really weird, creepy, and disrespectful.
- it's more of an attitude issue. you saw someone playing and said "i am going to write smut about them". why would you do that? because you're horny for them? because you're pissed off at them? because it's funny - for yourself, somehow? is it so hard to consider how the other person would feel about it? must we truly be simply hostile with everyone we meet and disregard their feelings every single time just because it's the internet? what is your goal by writing smut about someone's character when they potentially don't want it?
- would you say the same if this was a DM staging a sexual abuse scene for one of the player's characters? do you really not see how that could be uncomfortable for the player?
- i've had nsfw art of my character drawn by someone. it's just nudity and not really porn, but it was nice of the person to ask me. i don't have a problem with sexual content itself, it's just basic decency to ask first. clarifying this so you don't think i am simply a prude who hates sex or having their character sexualized in any way
- no one can really stop you from jerking off to characters or even writing smut or drawing someone's static with massive tiddies, but it's really not hard to not post it online. like it or not, your character is something *you* control and if some weirdo writes about it getting fucked and posts it online, they probably want a reaction out of you. if you can ahelp someone for being weird to you IC, there is no reason why you would be able to write about it and post it.
stop trying to convince yourself that this is other people's faults for "being too attached to their ocs" and please try to understand that this is a massive boundaries issue and it's honestly impressive it has gone for this long when it's as easy as "please ask me before writing about my character taking twelve inches of dick"